https://bit.ly/3HGv7Kt https://bit.ly/33aZ4Dx https://bit.ly/3LsypTZ https://bit.ly/3rE1SCt https://bit.ly/3BaeXXs https://bit.ly/3oAP3a7 https://bit.ly/3HCITOm https://bit.ly/3uGCyOq https://bit.ly/34tXaP8 https://bit.ly/3GHQBp8 https://bit.ly/3BbTsp3 https://bit.ly/3uziBJ5 https://bit.ly/3oCmkBR https://bit.ly/3BbgkFa https://bit.ly/3gB8ify https://bit.ly/3uD8xis https://bit.ly/3gzHSL9 https://bit.ly/34lYwvr https://bit.ly/3LlVTdl by a Taken In Hand reader on 2005 May 20 - 11:48 | reply to this comment All Very Well But "Pat" wrote: I'm happy to be married to a man who hates housework as much as I do and we both avoid the drudgery by just not doing it until it has to be done (such as someone who doesn't know us well enough to overlook it coming over). I don't want a cherished and protected position of having to do no work. All play and no work makes Janey pretty flighty and dull. It's meaningful and interesting work that keeps us sharp and makes us fascinating to other humans. And yeah, once in a while someones got to empty the garbage and clean the toilet. Sounds like what Pat Allen calls a "convenience" relationship: both parties want to be cherished *and* respected - and both then learn to balance their energy with respect to one another as circumstances vary. It also sounds like you've got a lot of the "bachelor" in you - not particularly wanting to be cherished and not particularly attentive to the housework. Wanting to be sharp. The variety of males is such these days that just about any woman can find one to make her happy. Mike